Blog Entries tagged 'Sponsoring men'

Taking A Personal Inventory. 14 Points to Ponder.

kenandjody@comcast.net — Thu, 10 Jul 2008 00:00:00 +0100

People living by the 12-step life-style recognize that our fifth step is one of the most powerful tools for recovery. It reads;

"We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs."

Just as a review for you non-steppers, by the time we reach this step we have already admitted that we were powerless over alcohol, came to believe that a power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity, made the decisi [...]

Alone With You Sittin' Right Next To Me. For Abandoned Wives.

kenandjody@comcast.net — Tue, 03 Jun 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Alone With You Sittin' Right Next To Me.

My sponsor is working hard to expand me beyond the life I live now, which is almost exclusively "in my head." He tells me that I must transcend the barriers erected within me by decades of faulty programming for an American male and access the feeling part of me. In his words, "Ken, you can do all of the thinking you want, but until you start doing [...]

We Codependent Men, We Mute Coyotes

kenandjody@comcast.net — Mon, 05 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

We Codependent Men, We Mute Coyotes

By Ken P.

The coyote is a long, slim, sick and sorry-looking skeleton, with a gray wolf-skin stretched over it, a tolerably bushy tail that forever sags down, a furtive and evil eye, and a long, sharp face, with slightly lifted lip and exposed teeth. He has a general slinking expression all over. The coyote is a living, breathing alle [...]

"Doctor Shopping" by Alcoholics.

kenandjody@comcast.net — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 07:26:47 +0100

Many of the men I have sponsored in Al-Anon have funny "war stories" about bungling attempts made by the medical profession while trying to deal with the lady alcoholics in our lives. The trick, from the gentleman physician's point of view, is how to treat the related health problems, keep her alive and coming back as a customer, and never actually identifythe problem as alcoholism.

My wife, (we'll call her Katy here) wrote her master's thesis [...]

Seven Do's and Don'ts for Sponsors

kenandjody@comcast.net — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 15:15:31 +0100

After sposoring over 30 men, I have been asked so many times to write out some suggestions that I finally did. Here they are, and I hopr that they help some of you in 12-step programs.

Ken P.

Seven Do's and Don't for Sponsors

1. Don't form an unhealthy enabling relationship. Stay detached. You are modeling healthy behavior here.

2. Don't allow every session to remain in t [...]

Should I Drink with Her?

kenandjody@comcast.net — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 09:13:08 +0100

Should I Drink With Her?

Part of the denial system for most alcoholics involves others drinking with them.

As a non-drinker, I have so many stories about heavy drinkers' maneuvers trying to get me to drink with them... like the boss who stood up in a public restaurant with our sales team, pointedhis finger over the top of my head, and announced loudly "this man is a wimp." Everybody who was a little drunk laughed hyst [...]

Why Do "Big Boys" Have Trouble Admitting Powerlessness?

kenandjody@comcast.net — Tue, 30 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

We are three men from Texas with over 40 years in Al-Anon (which is pretty unique), and we wrote this post the day before Halloween last year without the slightest thought that so many would read it. It is accounting for about 1/4 of the "hits" on our blog now, which has more than 60 posts, so it is obvious that men REALLY DO have trouble admitting powerlessness!

Please help us fuel this fire and help many other men by forwarding this post to any [...]