Blog Entries tagged 'psychology'

BABY BOOMERS AND ADDICTION

sherry@sgabatherapy.com — Thu, 28 Aug 2008 00:00:00 +0100

MIDDLE AGED BABY BOOMERS AND ADDICTION

A woman enters my office disheveled, thin, mid forties, with hollow eyes. It is as if the sparkle in her eyes ceased to exist a very long time ago. She tells me she has been drinking and is using methamphetamines. I am not surprised to hear this because lately my practice has been filled with middle aged baby boomers seeking help for their serious addictions. Whether it is alcohol, cocaine, crack, methamphetamines, pa [...]

Why Do "Big Boys" Have Trouble Feeling Feelings?

kenandjody@comcast.net — Mon, 28 Jul 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Men are confused. We are taught early in the game a basic lie. We are taught as little boys that emotions (yes, I'm goanna talk about the "F" word here guys, feelings), are bad and WRONG. We therefore confuse emotions with faults (short-comings if you are a 12-stepper, sins if you are many Christians).

As a man in al-Anon, a 12-step program for people who are being adversely effected by somebody else's drinking, I have listened to men speak during meetings [...]

Cleaning House. Taking Steps 4-9.

kenandjody@comcast.net — Wed, 09 Jul 2008 00:00:00 +0100

This post is strictly for experienced 12-step people. Most others will not understand it.

After taking the first three steps, beginning steps 4-9, the "clean house" steps, is not a matter of choice if you are at all committed to recovery. It is just not possible to stretch to a higher level of consciousness if you are burdened beneath a half of a lifetime of shortcomings.

The fourth step inventory presents a once-in-a-lifetime oppor [...]

Flavors of Codependency, III

kenandjody@comcast.net — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 00:00:00 +0100

The Non-existent codependent

There are three "flavors" or types of codependency identified by professionals in the field of addiction. The first two were identified and described in two earlier posts. These are, in brief, what I called "the codependent in charge," and the "super-denier."

The third type of codependent is the most pitiful. This person needs somebody else in the scapegoat-blustering- abu [...]

How Much Does Alcoholism Cost Society?

kenandjody@comcast.net — Tue, 06 Nov 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Nobody escapes paying the price for alcoholism, drug addiction, and codependency in society. Even if you are fortunate enough not to be a drinker at a level that is diseased (about 10% of our population drinks enough to hamper their daily performance) or one of the four adults who are in line daily enabling one who is (i.e., 48% of all adults over the age of 18 were either directly impacted by a diseased drinker as they grew up, or are being effected at the moment), then you are paying fo [...]