Blog Entries tagged 'Isolation'

Long Damned Gone. A Blues for Battered Wives.

kenandjody@comcast.net — Tue, 13 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Any man who attends Al-Anon meetings on a regular basis will hear stories of abuse told by women. as they effect a hard to look at vacant stare into the middle of the room. It is quiet at these times. Yes, we all learn that alcoholism is a disease, and we work hard at accepting that alcohol's first victim when it reaches the brain is usually judgement. We all know that this deadening of the humanizing chips leads to un [...]

Have A Nice Day Comma Marge

kenandjody@comcast.net — Tue, 13 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Codependent men are lonely creatures. They live in a state of isolation from the world, because constant contact with an addicted or alcoholic loved-one has for great blocks of their lifetime resulted in pain. So real contact with another person has become synonymous with pain. In fact, any contact withanother person brings with it the risk of truth, and truth is painful, so codependent men avoid truth and contact altogether... even with t [...]

We Codependent Men, We Mute Coyotes

kenandjody@comcast.net — Mon, 05 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

We Codependent Men, We Mute Coyotes

By Ken P.

The coyote is a long, slim, sick and sorry-looking skeleton, with a gray wolf-skin stretched over it, a tolerably bushy tail that forever sags down, a furtive and evil eye, and a long, sharp face, with slightly lifted lip and exposed teeth. He has a general slinking expression all over. The coyote is a living, breathing alle [...]

Is it possible for men to have real friendships with other men today?

kenandjody@comcast.net — Mon, 25 Feb 2008 19:53:02 +0100

Real friendships...possible in America today? "After David had finished talking with Saul, he met Jonathan, the king's son. There was an immediate bond of love between them, and they became the best of friends. And Jonathan made a special vow to be David's friend, and he sealed the pact by giving him his robe, tunic, sword, bow, and belt."

1 Samuel 18:1, 3-4

Question; is it possible for men to have real friendships with other men in tod [...]

God Don't Make No Junk

kenandjody@comcast.net — Sat, 23 Feb 2008 06:29:31 +0100

We are three men with over 40 years of al-anon between us. Please help us help others...men or women, addict or codependent, who might have these diseases in their lives. One of the most common symptoms of our diseases is this problem with realizing that we have HUGE WORTH!

Here are seven points to ponder before you start ripping yourself up from the inside!

Please read on and forward to everybody you possible can!

kenandjody@comcast.net — Mon, 05 Nov 2007 07:18:54 +0100

For various reasons, the members of addicted families suffer constant upheaval from frequent relocations. Moving may be related to other obvious symptoms of family instability: bankruptcy, divorce, frequent hospitalization, incarceration, deaths in the family, etc.

But there may be other reasons. The hero-child dad is more likely than most dads to sacrifice family stabilityin order to climb one more rung up the corporate ladder. Even more often, however, when the mar [...]

Boundaries; why they become walls to men

kenandjody@comcast.net — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 13:54:48 +0100

For women in Al Anon there is often a need to set boundaries and to learn how to maintain them. For MEN in Al-Anon there is more often a need to lower walls.

Walls are safe places for a man who has been around alcoholics or has been married to an alcoholic wife. The reason why silence is so preferable to opening up and exchanging words is because words are how alcoholics most often inflict pain.

The wall that builds in time around the inner parts of a man make him more and [...]

Isolation and fear, wolves and coyotes

kenandjody@comcast.net — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 08:41:56 +0100

An Al-Anon man lives in a state of heightened diligence. He sees the other men as wolves running in their chosen packs. He sees the jocks, the golfers, the professional organizations, the fraternal clubs, the Little League Dads, and the men in his suburban neighborhood dressed in their crisp shorts.

But the disease of alcoholism has isolated him. He has no pack for protection. His preoccupation with an alcoholic wife has robbed him of the time and [...]