Blog Entries tagged 'battle of the sexes'

Long Damned Gone. A Blues for Battered Wives.

kenandjody@comcast.net — Tue, 13 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Any man who attends Al-Anon meetings on a regular basis will hear stories of abuse told by women. as they effect a hard to look at vacant stare into the middle of the room. It is quiet at these times. Yes, we all learn that alcoholism is a disease, and we work hard at accepting that alcohol's first victim when it reaches the brain is usually judgement. We all know that this deadening of the humanizing chips leads to un [...]

Pregnant Women; PLEASE DON'T SWALLOW ETHYL ALCOHOL!

kenandjody@comcast.net — Sun, 27 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

We have been screaming at the world through this blog that women are using more alcohol, drugs, and tobacco in the current generation than are men. This is a profound shift in social habit. Now, in an incredibly short period of time, that drinking is showing up in our culture in our most vulnerable age group...our newborns.

Today, as you read this, for the first time ever, fetal alcohol syndrome (FAS) is the number one cause of retardati [...]

Why Grandma Doesn't Get A DUI

kenandjody@comcast.net — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 23:00:00 +0100

We have all heard that liars figure and figures lie, but when we started delving deeply into the data about women and alcoholism we found many figures that just didn't...well...figure!

For example, when it comes to DUI's (or DWI's) the number of arrests never matches any data on the incidence of alcoholism among women as compared to men. The trends are certainly there; in 1977 only 8% of DUI's were for women, and by 2007 that percentage had [...]

"The Affair," or How an alcoholic wife shifted her guilt

kenandjody@comcast.net — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 17:35:23 +0100

"The Affair"

Alcoholic wives resist every effort by an enablibng husband to escape the bondage of her extreme need for alcohol. One disturbing trend starts when he starts atending 12-step meetings for codependents, such as Al-Anon or Nar-A-Non. To her frustration, he seems to come home from these meetings whistling like he used to do. About thistime, she suddenly comes to the perfect solution to this conundrum; he is having an affair!

Yes, it all fits [...]

Should I Drink with Her?

kenandjody@comcast.net — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 09:13:08 +0100

Should I Drink With Her?

Part of the denial system for most alcoholics involves others drinking with them.

As a non-drinker, I have so many stories about heavy drinkers' maneuvers trying to get me to drink with them... like the boss who stood up in a public restaurant with our sales team, pointedhis finger over the top of my head, and announced loudly "this man is a wimp." Everybody who was a little drunk laughed hyst [...]

The Battle of the Sexes Al Anon Style

kenandjody@comcast.net — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 07:24:20 +0100

The Battle of the Sexes, Al Anon Style

Love is what happens to a man and a woman who don't know each other.

W. Somerset Maugham

The constant state of fear, if it is associatedwith the women in his life from the beginning, sometimes leads to men who turn anger toward all women. In exactly the same way that the woman in Al-Anon sometimes enjoys engaging in "man-bashing" sessions, the male Al-Ano [...]

My First Meeting

kenandjody@comcast.net — Sat, 13 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Scott Peck's first sentence in his seminal work , The Road Less Traveled was "Life is difficult." Program people understand this. Only those of us who have finally been reduced to desperation understand the internal forces that have to work against a codependent man that finally drive him to surrender and seek help.

I must have really looked like the "deer in the headlights" as I sneaked into my first Al-Anon meet [...]