Blog Entries tagged 'Alcoholic women'

Alone With You Sittin' Right Next To Me

kenandjody@comcast.net — Mon, 12 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

My sponsor is working hard to expand me beyond the life I live now, which is almost exclusively "in my head." He tells me that I must transcend the barriers erected within me by decades of faulty programming for an American male and access the feeling part of me. In his words, "Ken, you can do all of the thinking you want, but until you start doing some feeling, you are limited. This is because it is the feeling part of you that 'drives your bus.'" [...]

We Codependent Men, We Mute Coyotes

kenandjody@comcast.net — Mon, 05 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

We Codependent Men, We Mute Coyotes

By Ken P.

The coyote is a long, slim, sick and sorry-looking skeleton, with a gray wolf-skin stretched over it, a tolerably bushy tail that forever sags down, a furtive and evil eye, and a long, sharp face, with slightly lifted lip and exposed teeth. He has a general slinking expression all over. The coyote is a living, breathing alle [...]

Pregnant Women; PLEASE DON'T SWALLOW ETHYL ALCOHOL!

kenandjody@comcast.net — Sun, 27 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

We have been screaming at the world through this blog that women are using more alcohol, drugs, and tobacco in the current generation than are men. This is a profound shift in social habit. Now, in an incredibly short period of time, that drinking is showing up in our culture in our most vulnerable age group...our newborns.

Today, as you read this, for the first time ever, fetal alcohol syndrome (FAS) is the number one cause of retardati [...]

Why Grandma Doesn't Get A DUI

kenandjody@comcast.net — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 23:00:00 +0100

We have all heard that liars figure and figures lie, but when we started delving deeply into the data about women and alcoholism we found many figures that just didn't...well...figure!

For example, when it comes to DUI's (or DWI's) the number of arrests never matches any data on the incidence of alcoholism among women as compared to men. The trends are certainly there; in 1977 only 8% of DUI's were for women, and by 2007 that percentage had [...]

Graduation Day

dawicker104@yahoo.com — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 23:00:00 +0100

By Rev. Ned Wicker,

http://Drug-Addiction-Support.org

The group session on spirituality was just wrapping up when one of the staffers opened the door and asked "Are you almost finished?" For Janice, one of four women in the group, it was time to go home. She had finished a five-day stay at the residential drug and alcohol treatment center, and this day, as she put it, was "graduation day."

It was a strange, almost surreal moment. Afte [...]

"The Affair," or How an alcoholic wife shifted her guilt

kenandjody@comcast.net — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 17:35:23 +0100

"The Affair"

Alcoholic wives resist every effort by an enablibng husband to escape the bondage of her extreme need for alcohol. One disturbing trend starts when he starts atending 12-step meetings for codependents, such as Al-Anon or Nar-A-Non. To her frustration, he seems to come home from these meetings whistling like he used to do. About thistime, she suddenly comes to the perfect solution to this conundrum; he is having an affair!

Yes, it all fits [...]

Should I Drink with Her?

kenandjody@comcast.net — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 09:13:08 +0100

Should I Drink With Her?

Part of the denial system for most alcoholics involves others drinking with them.

As a non-drinker, I have so many stories about heavy drinkers' maneuvers trying to get me to drink with them... like the boss who stood up in a public restaurant with our sales team, pointedhis finger over the top of my head, and announced loudly "this man is a wimp." Everybody who was a little drunk laughed hyst [...]

The Battle of the Sexes Al Anon Style

kenandjody@comcast.net — Fri, 29 Feb 2008 07:24:20 +0100

The Battle of the Sexes, Al Anon Style

Love is what happens to a man and a woman who don't know each other.

W. Somerset Maugham

The constant state of fear, if it is associatedwith the women in his life from the beginning, sometimes leads to men who turn anger toward all women. In exactly the same way that the woman in Al-Anon sometimes enjoys engaging in "man-bashing" sessions, the male Al-Ano [...]

Flavors of Codependency, I

kenandjody@comcast.net — Mon, 18 Feb 2008 09:03:29 +0100

Flavors of codependency

The super-denier codependent

The basic distinguishing characteristic of all the members in the addicted household is denial. Therefore, the first type of codependent is the type who has simply perfected denial. These people adoptevery excuse made by the alcoholic. They blame anybody else for the consequences inevitably suffered by the drinker. They even make up their own excuses. This [...]

12 Rationalizations for a Typical High Functioning Alcoholic

kenandjody@comcast.net — Sun, 17 Feb 2008 16:19:23 +0100

My first post about high functioning alcoholics dated November 1 was so popular that I decided to follow-through with my promise to write others. The following is taken from literature provided by Recovery Ministries of the Episcopal Church, Inc., and was written by Janee S. Parnegg, CAC.

You can access more information at the following:<strong>

info@episcopalrecovery.org

and/or

http://www.episcopalrecovery.org [...]

Enablers for alcoholic women

kenandjody@comcast.net — Thu, 08 Nov 2007 08:22:47 +0100

For alcoholic women there is usually one primary enabler. This is typically a high functioning husband, a wealthy father, or a boss who spreads the work the alcoholic doesn't do among many other workers. In time these dysfunctional enablers are sucked into the alcoholism vortex because alcoholism is a disease that is progressive. It creeps into systems slowly overmany years. As the alcoholic gradually declines in functional capacity others, in terribly subtle ways, take [...]

abused

Intake@abbahouse.com — Mon, 05 Nov 2007 12:30:25 +0100

long ago I had left home thinking I could make it on my own, I never knew what was driving me i just knew i needed to get away i was lonely and was looking for something or someone to understand me, well i found them it came in a package filled with drugs, rape, abuse!

what can i do to change and have life?

My First Meeting

kenandjody@comcast.net — Sat, 13 Oct 2007 00:00:00 +0100

Scott Peck's first sentence in his seminal work , The Road Less Traveled was "Life is difficult." Program people understand this. Only those of us who have finally been reduced to desperation understand the internal forces that have to work against a codependent man that finally drive him to surrender and seek help.

I must have really looked like the "deer in the headlights" as I sneaked into my first Al-Anon meet [...]