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Alone With You Sittin' Right Next To Me

kenandjody@comcast.net — Mon, 12 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

My sponsor is working hard to expand me beyond the life I live now, which is almost exclusively "in my head." He tells me that I must transcend the barriers erected within me by decades of faulty programming for an American male and access the feeling part of me. In his words, "Ken, you can do all of the thinking you want, but until you start doing some feeling, you are limited. This is because it is the feeling part of you that 'drives your bus.'" [...]

I'm new!

carrie5559@yahoo.com — Sun, 11 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

I am new to this. I have to start somewhere! Looking forward to being honest and open.

We Codependent Men, We Mute Coyotes

kenandjody@comcast.net — Mon, 05 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

We Codependent Men, We Mute Coyotes

By Ken P.

The coyote is a long, slim, sick and sorry-looking skeleton, with a gray wolf-skin stretched over it, a tolerably bushy tail that forever sags down, a furtive and evil eye, and a long, sharp face, with slightly lifted lip and exposed teeth. He has a general slinking expression all over. The coyote is a living, breathing alle [...]

Living Free

gibbys@zoominternet.net — Thu, 01 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

I am trying a new Bible Study today called Living Free. I feel I need more than just meetings. Anyone ever went to it? Thank you!!

Anyone been to christian recovery Ft. Lauderdale?

gibbys@zoominternet.net — Thu, 01 May 2008 00:00:00 +0100

hello,

I was at Christian Recovery Solutions Fort lauderdale Florida Jan. and Feb 08.

Needed 2 vent

LILMISFT98@AOL.COM — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Today's been rough so far. I got into a car accident yesterday and all i wanted to do was get high. I didn't , thank God, but I hate that I still feel that. It drives me nuts. I been clean only 4 a short time, but it's been ok. i go to an IOP, it's only 2 days a week tho. I love it there. The people are awesome there. Well, that's all for now. Just needed 2 vent. = )

The Bag of Pain

kenandjody@comcast.net — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Every addict and/or alcoholic wakes up every morning with this bag of pain hanging over his or her heart by a rope that is so tight that it only allows the sufferrer to take short shallow breaths. This pain is a 'mixed bag of goodies, but unlike a pinata that yields treats when it is broken, this one just sort of exudes misery like a foul vapor up into the nostrils.

Through the years the addict has, through trial and error, found ways to loosen the rope, and som [...]

Daniel Linder, MFT - RelationshipVision Blog/Addiction Recovery & Relationships

TayeBCorby@GMail.com — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

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Please visit us!

Best regards,

Taye B. Corby, Co-founder

RelationshipVision, the online relationship training resource...

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Down when I got home

gibbys@zoominternet.net — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Hello,

My name is Melody. I am from nw pa. I went to Christian Recovery in Fort Lauderdale Florida. I have depression and anxiety and am no longer taking xanax. I have been doing pretty good with that, but coming home even to a loving husband and family seems to have brought me down again. I am not sure why.

Pregnant Women; PLEASE DON'T SWALLOW ETHYL ALCOHOL!

kenandjody@comcast.net — Sun, 27 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

We have been screaming at the world through this blog that women are using more alcohol, drugs, and tobacco in the current generation than are men. This is a profound shift in social habit. Now, in an incredibly short period of time, that drinking is showing up in our culture in our most vulnerable age group...our newborns.

Today, as you read this, for the first time ever, fetal alcohol syndrome (FAS) is the number one cause of retardati [...]

Why Grandma Doesn't Get A DUI

kenandjody@comcast.net — Tue, 22 Apr 2008 23:00:00 +0100

We have all heard that liars figure and figures lie, but when we started delving deeply into the data about women and alcoholism we found many figures that just didn't...well...figure!

For example, when it comes to DUI's (or DWI's) the number of arrests never matches any data on the incidence of alcoholism among women as compared to men. The trends are certainly there; in 1977 only 8% of DUI's were for women, and by 2007 that percentage had [...]

Favorite Addictions of Codependent Men

kenandjody@comcast.net — Sun, 20 Apr 2008 23:00:00 +0100

What, me addicted?

Addictive behaviors work. They provide temporary relief for intense physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual agony. We co-dependents have our own favorite addictions.

To most of us, the word addiction brings to mind images of down and out souls whose lives are lost to drugs and alcohol. But that group actually represents only a fraction of the population whose lives are hampered by addiction. If we must do the numbers, it is g [...]

The Codependent Man

kenandjody@comcast.net — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 00:00:00 +0100

Ken P. and Bob T writing on The Codependent Man.

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Men today represent only 15% of Al-Anons, that is, only 15% of the people attending Al-Anon meetings nationwide trying to get help for themselves with their enabling behaviors with various alcoholic people are men! And yet within the current generation of alcohol and dru [...]

Graduation Day

dawicker104@yahoo.com — Tue, 08 Apr 2008 23:00:00 +0100

By Rev. Ned Wicker,

http://Drug-Addiction-Support.org

The group session on spirituality was just wrapping up when one of the staffers opened the door and asked "Are you almost finished?" For Janice, one of four women in the group, it was time to go home. She had finished a five-day stay at the residential drug and alcohol treatment center, and this day, as she put it, was "graduation day."

It was a strange, almost surreal moment. Afte [...]

"The Affair," or How an alcoholic wife shifted her guilt

kenandjody@comcast.net — Sun, 30 Mar 2008 17:35:23 +0100

"The Affair"

Alcoholic wives resist every effort by an enablibng husband to escape the bondage of her extreme need for alcohol. One disturbing trend starts when he starts atending 12-step meetings for codependents, such as Al-Anon or Nar-A-Non. To her frustration, he seems to come home from these meetings whistling like he used to do. About thistime, she suddenly comes to the perfect solution to this conundrum; he is having an affair!

Yes, it all fits [...]

"Yes but..." Notes of denial for clients and their families.

kenandjody@comcast.net — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 07:49:15 +0100

We are three men with over 40 years of recovery in Al-Anon, a 12-step recovery program for the families of alcoholics. Please read this and forward it to your clients, their families, your alumni, or any program community people it may help. So many are so deeply damaged by years of living with addicts and/or alcoholics.

Yes But....

We love the oral tradition from AAthat says..."everything after the word but is a lie."

&nbs [...]

"Doctor Shopping" by Alcoholics.

kenandjody@comcast.net — Sat, 22 Mar 2008 07:26:47 +0100

Many of the men I have sponsored in Al-Anon have funny "war stories" about bungling attempts made by the medical profession while trying to deal with the lady alcoholics in our lives. The trick, from the gentleman physician's point of view, is how to treat the related health problems, keep her alive and coming back as a customer, and never actually identifythe problem as alcoholism.

My wife, (we'll call her Katy here) wrote her master's thesis [...]

Seven Do's and Don'ts for Sponsors

kenandjody@comcast.net — Fri, 21 Mar 2008 15:15:31 +0100

After sposoring over 30 men, I have been asked so many times to write out some suggestions that I finally did. Here they are, and I hopr that they help some of you in 12-step programs.

Ken P.

Seven Do's and Don't for Sponsors

1. Don't form an unhealthy enabling relationship. Stay detached. You are modeling healthy behavior here.

2. Don't allow every session to remain in t [...]

Alternative to 12-step recovery?

karima@aboutdrugrehab.com — Sat, 15 Mar 2008 16:18:34 +0100

In all the talk about recovery from addiction, all I ever hear about is meetings and 12-step. It seems that all recovering addicts and alcoholics have become religious and embraced Christianity - for the most part. Is there any other way? I think to myself that there has to be a non 12-step, non religious way to remain in safe recovery from addiction. I am not in recoverymyself, but I can certainly empathize with those who do not embrace organized religion. I kn [...]

Soberlivingla.net-Mc laughlin House & Redwood House

memories727@yahoo.com — Fri, 14 Mar 2008 07:32:42 +0100

Sober Living L.A.

Mc Laughlin House & Redwood House

Transitional Structured Sober Living for men

I would like to take this opportunity to introduce the Mc Laughlin and Redwood House. We are a structured soberliving for men. We provide our residents with a safe, drug and alcohol free environment where men can experience a positive transition between early recovery and li [...]