Feelings of guilt and remorse frequently occur after abortion and sometimes alcohol and drugs are used to medicate these feelings. Medicating bad feelings for an extended period of time can lead to addiction. Thus it can also be concluded that abortion can lead to addiction.

There is no way to know how many addicts decide to have abortions or how many people become addicts as a result of abortion. What we do know is that there have been 48 million abortions in the last 35 years and if you believe that life begins before birth, then there have been 48 million deaths as a result of these abortions. Even if you don’t believe that life begins before birth there are still 48 million women and close to that number of men who have been profoundly impacted by the abortion decision. I suspect that the percentage of this group who became addicts is much higher than it is for the general population.

I know that abortion is a very contentious issue with less than half the population feeling strongly about pro life and more than half feeling the same passion about pro choice. While the nation is divided between the pro life and pro choice positions, I don’t believe that the pro life group wants to curtail women’s rights in general nor do I believe that the pro choice group thinks abortion is a good thing. I believe that the majority of us would like to see abortions reduced or even eliminated except in rare cases.

So if you are in agreement that something should be done to reduce or eliminate abortions, please visit www.40daysforlife.com.

This web site provides information on a program designed to reduce abortions through personal prayer, prayer vigils at abortion clinics, where information on alternatives is provided, and public outreach to increase the awareness level about abortion and its impact. Daily updates on the success of the program are provided after registration. Unlike other efforts to reduce abortions where aggressive and sometimes violent approaches are employed, this program is dedicated to prayer and to helping the women with unwanted pregnancies find an alternative. The results have been remarkable and many women have chosen other options resulting in fewer abortions and most likely fewer people becoming addicted to drugs and alcohol.

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     The father of an addicted daughter, for example, faces a gut wrenching dilemma when he must accept that he can no longer protect and make things OK for his little girl. This dilemma goes right to the core of a father’s basic instincts and his perceived role as a man. After numerous failures to “help” his daughter he typically takes on an equally powerful motivator to continue to “help”. This motivator is guilt and is the result of thinking that he is a failure as a father and as a man. He finds many justifications for continuing to “help” including thinking that this time it will work and that, as a father and a man, he simply must continue to try to do something. Taking some kind of action also provides temporary relief from the pain of watching his daughter suffer. So how does he get out of this dilemma?

     The single most important thing is to accept that his daughter has a disease over which he has absolutely no control or power. This acceptance must occur in his mind, heart and soul or he will be pulled back to the instinctive protective mode. Once the acceptance has occurred, he can move on to the next step which is separating his daughter from her disease. He learns that he can love his daughter but hate the disease. This distinction then allows him to discern what is enabling versus what is helping and loving. Often by this time he has lost sight of the beautiful person his daughter is and becomes focused entirely on her behavior. It can be helpful to think about and write a letter about his daughter’s good qualities and even more helpful to both he and his daughter to give her this letter.

Bob T

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