Enabler no more

I am a nurse and was trained to believe the patient's statement of pain level. My husband started with alcohol, which he said he'd quit when we married. Of course he didn't. Then he 'hurt' his back. Oh what luck he had, a sympathetic wife. When he couldn't 'control' himself with managing his pain medications i was conviently there to administer them properly. He constantly had to be 'bumped' up because of tolerance. I bought into that one also. Had no idea he was selling his prescriptions for money to buy crack. Then crack pipes started showing up in our home. I was not born yesterday. But no one would listen to me. I told his parents, doctor and finaly the police. They at least offered to take the crack pipe off my hands and enter a report so I could go to the doctor and stop the vicious circle. That was just the beginning of the end. His sister overdosed and died last December. NOW his parents believed me. He lives with them now and they are his enablers now, not me. Living with mom and dad at age 50. Go figure. After searching the net for 10 mnths I have finally found this fantastic place with more information in one place at one time than all my months of searching put together. I am amazed and most grateful.  Chris
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great post
written by findhelp, October 15, 2007
Thank you for the kind words about the site smilies/smiley.gif I hope it's a place where people can find the help and support they need
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written by ColinB, May 18, 2008
I am an addict and was kept afloat in my addiction by my parents. They provided me a home, car, and all the nessecities I needed including money for cigs. But what they didn't know was that I was stealing money and abusing their trust by buying heroin and lying to their faces about it. When I got arrested they always came to bail me out and provide me with a lawyer. It wasn't until they hired someone to have an intervention on me we they able to stand up for themselves and kick me to the streets. Money ran out fast when I wasn't able to get my hands on their debit cards so I gave in and went to a detox and inpatient facility for 2 months. Now I'm back here doing sober living and going to college and working to support myself. Sometimes enabling someone is hard not to do because you care about someone so much like my parents did but only when they stopped did I realize where my action had brought me and was able to start building my own life. The program in california called Action Recovery saved my life as well as my parents being educated on addiction and not enabling me any more. It was hard for them to do at the time but know we are all alot happier. Colin
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