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Lovelife As a mother of an addict, I have worked for years to understand the disease of "Addiction". I have gone to many programs held at each "Rehab" when my loved one was there. I read every book and article recommended. I continue to attend meetings. Yet I am faced with painful questions... How can I forgive myself for being such an enabler? Will I ever be able to do so? How can I stop being as codependent as I have been for so many years, now that I recognize the traits in myself? This was the only life I knew how to live. Finally, will I ever be able to not worry that today may be the day my loved one will relapse and die? I understand that the Disease of Addiction is a lifetime illness. Will I, as a family member, suffer for the rest of my life,too? Somewhere, somehow, we'll both find a new way of living. Looking for help, and answers...