Men Leave Treatment Because of Their Codependency!

     I am writing to propose some level of cooperation between professionals writing about and treating codependency and the professionals staffs of treatment centers in order to improve retention and ultimately long-term recovery for clients by providing some missing pieces for families whose lives are being ravaged by the co morbid diseases of addiction and codependency. Here is a quote taken directly from the back cover of our book written by Dr. Joseph Moons, C.P., Retreat Director, Holy Name Retreat Center , Houston, Texas;

“There is a need for this book for codependent men. In my association with the many men and women who attend 12-step retreats at Holy Name Passionist Retreat Center, the codependent men have the greatest fear and the least knowledge or understanding of their relationship with the addicted person in their life.  As the man in the family, they are supposed to have the answers and they don’t. This book begins to give some answers.”

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WHO AND WHAT IS MYTHERAPYJOURNAL.COM ??? I would like to invite your patients and you to use MyTherapyJournal.com, the only therapy-oriented online journaling tool. You should consider this online service, as we continue to sign up new treatment centers who are providing this innovative service to their patients. I would like to share how the scientific proven benefits of journaling can be a great benefit to set you apart from other treatment centers, as well a provide an impactful tool to your patients/clients. PLEASE TAKE A TOUR AT: www.mytherapyjournal.com/take_a_tour 3 key benefits for patients: 1. My Journal Entries - Patients create their personal Journal and start writing daily feelings, thoughts, dreams and hopes in a customized and password-protected journal. 2. My Progress Questions and Progress Graph - Patients visualize their progress with a user-friendly, personalized graph and start tracking their journey. Patients select from pre-set progress questions relating to distinctive categories or simply create their own in collaboration with the therapist in less than 5 minutes. 3. Affordable and secure online service based on the principles of cognitive behavioral therapy, which is revolutionizing therapy via the online medium. Awards to date: To date, MyTherapyJournal has won several entrepreneurial competitions and articles have been published in Forbes, Daily Business Review, Psychology Today, CNN, Miami Herald, and more. Additionally, the American Psychological Association (APA) gave permission for MyTherapyJournal to launch at their prestigious annual conference back in 2007. Members to date: Today, MyTherapyJournal counts over 2,500 members including therapists, clinics, treatment centers, soldiers, health organizations, and individuals seeking self-help. To name a few clients, MyTherapyJournal is the exclusive provider of online journaling for the Williamsville Wellness Center, non-gambler.com, among others. 3 distinctive ways to buy memberships: 1) Treatment Centers: You can provide the patient/client with a membership upon arrival. Upon completion of program patient/client has the option to extend membership at their own expense. Clinicians have been using this tool for keeping track of matters related to their sessions with patients as well. 2) Individual Membership purchased by Therapist for Patient/Client: You can buy individual memberships for patients/clients. You can offer this service as part of your consultancy fees and treatment costs. This option allows you to create a username and password for your patient/client and thus have full access. It also allows you to be able to use our tool during sessions from your own office. For some lower functioning clients or for people of lesser means, this would ensure that the value of our services would ensue. 3) Individual Membership purchased by Patient/Client: You can recommend to a patient/client to buy an individual membership on their own at standard membership pricing starting as low as $7.95 per month - At this point, a patient/client has the option to provide you with full access to their information or not. The patient/client can grant you full access by simply sharing his or her username and password with you, at which point you will be able to view and change anything you want (e.g. create a new category for the patient/client to track). Why Journal? The Science of Journaling Over the last 20 years, the journal has been empirically shown to make therapy more effective and to diminish symptoms of depression, anxiety, panic, substance abuse, post-traumatic stress, and many other disorders, even for those who aren't seeing a mental health practitioner. 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Centers dedicated to specific populations such as people with HIV+ and AIDS, people with disabilities, LGTBQ individuals, survivors of trauma or abuse, and/or members of AA, NA, Al-Anon, Alateen, etc. Hospitals and Health Clinics = Some of these include clinics for people recovering from an addiction such as heroine, alcohol, gambling, sex, or even overspending. Hospital departments dealing with everything from trauma, chronic illness, and chronic pain to treatment adherence, post-operation recovery, and grief due to loss of a loved one. Insurance Organizations = Insurance companies utilize our tool as part of health packages. These sometimes accompany treatment with mental health or medical professionals, and sometimes they don't. It also helps clients keep track of how effective different treatments have been over a long period of time. Mental Health Providers = Both the journaling and progress tracking components of MTJ are invaluable tools for mental health providers. 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Both the journaling's ability to allow for clients to create chronological narratives of their experience and the emotions associated with them, and the progress graph's ability to have them observe themselves objectively, prove to be invaluable components of treatment and re-adjustment into civilian life. Health Research Institutions = Pharmaceutical companies aiming at having their medications tested by human participants use MTJ as a simple, and cost-effective way of tracking the results of their medication on any target symptom or population. Data is collected by each participant's self-report and is delivered already graphed and mapped out chronologically. Participants also use the other benefits of MTJ and feel empowered by their ability to track their own reactions to the new medication. INDIVIDUALS: One group of people who are using MTJ are individuals who simply love journaling and having their journals communicate with them. Adolescents, college students, stay-home parents, young professionals, insightful adults, and techno-savvy grandparents. Basically, anyone who is self-curious, who feels relief in expressing themselves through writing, and/or who enjoys seeing concrete evidence of their progress via our Progress Graph. Another group of people are those undergoing painful, confusing, difficult, and/or daunting times in their lives. It also for people living with the reality of having emotional, physical, mental, and/or cognitive difficulties. This is everyone who suffers from depression, anxiety, panic, substance abuse, post-traumatic stress, obsessive-compulsions, mania, panic, and/or who has symptoms of any mental disorder. Some of these individuals are receiving some service from a mental health provider, and some are not. For some people, MTJ compliments their work with a professional, and for others, seeking professional help is something they are not at all interested in. Finally, another group of individuals are those who fall in both the above groups, in some way or another. We believe most of our clients are in this third group. Life is usually ever-changing, and our states of being are too. Anyone who is uncomfortable with the idea that a written journal might be ever found by their parents, siblings, housemates, roommates, boyfriend/girlfriend, colleges or strangers. About the Team: Alexis Saccoman - Chief Psychology Consultant and Co-founder A graduate of Brown University, Alexis is a clinical psychology trainee pursuing a doctorate in clinical psychology (Psy.D.) at the California Institute of Integral Studies in San Francisco. Alexis has a Masters degree in clinical psychology and holds a private practice in the San Francisco Bay Area. 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MIDDLE AGED BABY BOOMERS AND ADDICTION

A woman enters my office disheveled, thin, mid forties, with hollow eyes.  It is as if the sparkle in her eyes ceased to exist a very long time ago.  She tells me she has been drinking and is using methamphetamines.  I am not surprised to hear this because lately my practice has been filled with middle aged baby boomers seeking help for their serious addictions.  Whether it is alcohol, cocaine, crack, methamphetamines, pain killers, heroine, or smoking marijuana, many have crossed the line into addiction.  Their lives have become unmanageable and they have lost their ability to control their use.  Some believe they can just cut down, but as addiction specialists, we know it is impossible once you have crossed that invisible line into dependency.   One of their defense mechanisms is "denial" so they can still continue their love affair with drugs or alcohol.  Addiction is the only disease that tells them in the most insidious of ways, "I don't have a problem or disease."  It can be very difficult treating someone who doesn't think they have a problem.  However, on some level this particular woman who landed in my office may already know an issue exists, but can't bare to admit it. 

So what brings this middle aged woman into see me with such desperation on her face?  Her husband has told her if she doesn't stop using, he will leave her and take the children with him.  She tells me she can't imagine not using meth. "It gives me energy to deal with my four kids and keeps my weight down."   I am sure it might be hard to believe that someone in middle age, a soccer mom and a wife feels this way.   It is no longer teenagers or urban minorities taking the lead, although there still is an epidemic of young addicts out there.   These  all American business men, stay at home moms, career women and even the elderly  are filling the treatment centers and therapists offices and some, never make it.   In a recent study, it was revealed that drug deaths from illicit drug over doses had risen 800 per cent since 1980.  One of the fastest growing abuses is pain killers with suburbia filled with these individuals.   It has long been known that there are many reasons for the abuse, but for the middle aged the reasons may be not only the genetic predisposition, but as a buffer to numb the pain of divorce, un-employment, an empty nest, retirement, trauma or illness.  Depression may be one of the biggest culprits to addiction, with it being the highest amongst the ages of 45 to 60.

The "free love" generation of "sex, drugs, and rock ‘n roll" has taken a turn; many would have never expected drug addiction to be their legacy.  Often long standing drug abusers find when the marijuana stops working; they often go to stronger drugs.  For some it is losing their children, a job, a spouse, or homelessness that leads them to seek help.

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When legendary ‘70’s group “The Eagles” released their Grammy-winning record “Hotel California” in 1978, band member Don Henley called it "our interpretation of the high life in Los Angeles."  Now 30 years later, Henley & Co.’s sardonic tribute to the hedonistic Southern California lifestyle has assumed an entirely different, yet ironically related connotation.  “Drug Rehab California” has become almost a cottage industry for The Golden State, with “Hotel” type luxury rehabs leading the pack.  Seems the “high life” also has a price.  And the price tag can indeed be quite hefty for those who desire to first detox, then learn how to stay that way in one of the many upscale Malibu rehab facilities that have sprung up in recent years.

But are they worth the price?  Critics of these ritzy rehabs complain that too many amenities distract from the real purpose behind the stay:  getting clean and sober.  But pundits of the newly emerging evolution in recovery argue that those accustomed to a “comfortable” lifestyle would never seek admission to one of the more strident recovery clinics available.  Thus, like a fancy automobile or private school, the new Drug Rehab California, has an important market value.

Certainly, the hope is that anyone choosing recovery - which is a good thing – would either investigate (or have an advocate do so on their behalf), with as much due diligence as they would an expensive car or academic institution, the best rehab “fit.”  Although it is certainly true that California drug rehabs are enjoying a tremendous boon in the number of facilities offering treatment for chemical dependency, with that explosion also comes greater choice for the addict or alcoholic seeking treatment.  Gender specific treatment has become the most praised by professionals, in this new wave of California recovery, with many established top drug and alcohol rehabs jettisoning their co-ed structure to offer more specialized treatment for men and women individually.  A top Malibu rehab, Harmony Place, for years established and recognized as one of the best rehabs in the world, was the first of the Malibu rehabs to recognize the importance of gender specific dual-diagnosis treatment.  They launched their Harmony Place Exclusively For Women program in early 2007 to great success.

Whether the cutting edge drug rehab California philosophy will spread, seemingly like all things Californian, to other parts of the nation and world, still remains to be seen.  But one thing is for sure:  at these new “Hotels California,” there may be “mirrors on the ceiling,” but there sure ain’t no “pink champagne on ice.”

For someone struggling with alcohol abuse, dependency or even advanced alcoholism, the question of where to turn for help can be overwhelming at best or even completely paralyzing.  The internet is inarguably the most comprehensive guide to just about everything, but even negotiating the ever-increasing numbers of alcoholism treatment centers now appearing on “the Web” can prove too arduous for the alcohol-dependent and therefore somewhat cognitively compromised individual.   Although experts agree that involvement in substance abuse support groups like Alcoholics Anonymous are vital to helping maintain long-term sobriety, for many, the pressure of selecting the best alcoholism treatment center or most successful drug rehab is a heady prospect.

Anyone making the excellent choice to seek, of their own volition, treatment for their alcoholism, drug addiction or substance dependency is already ahead of the game in terms of best possible drug rehab outcome potential.   Choosing the most successful alcoholism treatment center is the next step and there are certain guidelines which experts agree should be considered before admitting to any alcoholism or drug rehab treatment center. 

Perhaps the most important consideration in choosing the best alcoholism treatment center is the population prototype of the treatment center.   Number of patient beds, average age of patients, specializations (if any) of the treatment center staff and other historical demographic factors can profoundly impact the potential for greatest success rate of a program.  Professionals are in concert on their agreement that in the case of the best rehab centers, smaller is better.  There is also a growing advocacy for gender-specific treatment, due to the inherent differences between the sexes and thus the issues fueling their addictions.  The best dual-diagnosis drug rehabilitation centers provide a comprehensive program schedule, which include clinical, therapeutic, educational, somatic and spiritual classes and groups.   The less secular the environment, say recovery experts, the better.  Thus, separate rehab programs for men and women, appears to have received the seal of professional approval.

Harmony Place Exclusively For Women, for example, is an intimate and specialized “boutique” dual-diagnosis alcoholism treatment center located in metropolitan Los Angeles, which believes strongly in the benefits of a gender-specific alcoholism treatment center.   Their luxury rehab environment, where the amenities are only outclassed by a state-of-the-art recovery program, has been recognized as one of the top drug rehab centers in the world.  Harmony Place was, in fact, the number one Malibu rehab to expand their services to include an exclusive women’s only dual-diagnosis treatment program.   The impressive success of the Harmony Place female only rehab model strongly supports the new evolution of cutting-edge treatment for drug and alcohol addiction where smaller is always better.