Men Leave Treatment Because of Their Codependency!

     I am writing to propose some level of cooperation between professionals writing about and treating codependency and the professionals staffs of treatment centers in order to improve retention and ultimately long-term recovery for clients by providing some missing pieces for families whose lives are being ravaged by the co morbid diseases of addiction and codependency. Here is a quote taken directly from the back cover of our book written by Dr. Joseph Moons, C.P., Retreat Director, Holy Name Retreat Center , Houston, Texas;

“There is a need for this book for codependent men. In my association with the many men and women who attend 12-step retreats at Holy Name Passionist Retreat Center, the codependent men have the greatest fear and the least knowledge or understanding of their relationship with the addicted person in their life.  As the man in the family, they are supposed to have the answers and they don’t. This book begins to give some answers.”

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Men are often bread winners of the family. They have been assigned this role since ages. Thus their role demands are different from those of women. The men have to face different set of problems than the women. Thus their behavior is different; their way of tackling those problems is different. Biologically men are way too different and their emotional set up is also different. Thus their requirements to deal with problems or addictions completely vary from women. Even after being so different from each other, one thing many individuals believe is the highest power.

Many may not name it but the faith surely is there. All around the world there are many people who religiously follow some or the other faith; there are many who do not follow any. Everybody is free to follow their own path of thoughts. But according to my personal opinion, there may not be any soul on the surface of earth, who does not believe in supremacy of a power that lies above everything else, it should not necessarily have any form. Not everything is within the reach of a human being. Even after being the most developed natural creation, many of the incidents leave us speechless and they are beyond our comprehensive capabilities. 

Men are very much prone to addictions as they are more emotionally weak. They need external emotional and mental support, without which they feel incomplete. A strong emotional support can take men places, but without it they can crumble. This element also differentiates men from women. Women are emotionally stronger species. Considering these varied needs and requirements of both these species there are separate rehabs specially designed for men, where they have all men staff.. It is very human to feel comfortable in the company of the same sex. People tend to respond in a very positive and cooperative manner while surrounded by the similar sex.

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As part of my continuing education as a pharmaceutical salesman covering the hospitals in a major medical center, my company had arranged for a kind of preceptor ship at a teaching hospital in downtown Chicago. I was to "shadow" a third year internal medicine resident for two solid weeks. We had three reps assigned to each resident, and that little group of four worked

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