I am new to this but I am looking for some guidance on this issue from an outside source. I have been dating a wonderful guy for over a year now. I had my suspicions for quite some time that something was going on. My boyfriend worked for a gentleman who often smoked crack and that's why my initial suspicions came in to place. He would ditch me for one specific friend, more often recently. He also disappeared about 6 months back for 3 days and told me afterwards that he had needed time because he was upset about some things. He was occassionally fidgety and his moods were often unpredictable. There were multiple times where him and this friend would go off randomly and come back with some excuse such as, they went to the grocery store, or to the mall to look. I tried to convince myself that nothing was going on because my boyfriend is genuinely a wonderful hearted person and I thought the problem was me. I finally had the convincing that I needed when I discussed all of these symptoms with someone familiar with cocaine. I confronted my boyfriend recently if he smokes crack. I didn't expect an honest answer, but he told me everything. He was very emotional about the issue and told me that he won't do it anymore because now it is affecting his life if he loses me. He said that he didn't want to lie to me for te past year but it was something he didn't want me to know. I don't know how to take this situation. He doesn't want to do it but I have my doubts that this is something that he can just up and quit after having been an occassional user for the past few years. I am unsure if I should put my faith in him and be here to support him or if I should leave him so he realizes that this is a serious thing. How do I even know if he is completely sober? He's had me fooled all along. Any response would help.
Thank you!
Chelsea (Never thought I'd be in this situation)