Men are often bread winners of the family. They have been assigned this role since ages. Thus their role demands are different from those of women. The men have to face different set of problems than the women. Thus their behavior is different; their way of tackling those problems is different. Biologically men are way too different and their emotional set up is also different. Thus their requirements to deal with problems or addictions completely vary from women. Even after being so different from each other, one thing many individuals believe is the highest power.

Many may not name it but the faith surely is there. All around the world there are many people who religiously follow some or the other faith; there are many who do not follow any. Everybody is free to follow their own path of thoughts. But according to my personal opinion, there may not be any soul on the surface of earth, who does not believe in supremacy of a power that lies above everything else, it should not necessarily have any form. Not everything is within the reach of a human being. Even after being the most developed natural creation, many of the incidents leave us speechless and they are beyond our comprehensive capabilities. 

Men are very much prone to addictions as they are more emotionally weak. They need external emotional and mental support, without which they feel incomplete. A strong emotional support can take men places, but without it they can crumble. This element also differentiates men from women. Women are emotionally stronger species. Considering these varied needs and requirements of both these species there are separate rehabs specially designed for men, where they have all men staff.. It is very human to feel comfortable in the company of the same sex. People tend to respond in a very positive and cooperative manner while surrounded by the similar sex.

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The addiction is something which is not forced onto someone; rather it is accepted willingly by the individuals because of its effects on mind and body. The addiction has a very soothing and calming effect on the addict. It makes them forget the worries or tensions for time being and relaxes the mind. The addictive substances are very much powerful and have long lasting effect on the humans. These substances are addictive because of their effect. People do not get that relaxing effect from any other thing. These substances release this effect without much effort from addict’s side.

Due to this characteristic, these substances become very popular. Alcohol is one of such substances which are initially taken to relax the mind and body after hectic and strenuous day. Gradually the body develops higher tolerance levels for that particular dose and to achieve that effect the individual increases the in- take. The vicious circle goes on. At one point there is a time when the addiction goes beyond control and it starts creating problems for the individual himself and his loved ones.

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I have a shoplifting addiction. I have been shoplifting on and off since i was 16 and now Im 38 . i recently got caught and have been charged with a class u felony. The addiction got worse actually after i stole a computer from walmart last year. anyway i didnt know there was such a thing called shoplifting addiction. I need to get help ASAP.

Were You A “Disappearing Child?”

                 The processes of addiction and codependency begin with the roles typically played by children in dysfunctional homes where addicts and codependent receive their “training.” One of the roles assumed by children in such homes is that of the “disappearing child.”

    To avoid the pain of the chaos and conflict in the living room, which seems to be where most of the drama occurs, the disappearing child finds predictable ways of escaping.   One way is to adopt another family altogether. This is often another family on the same block where the child has formed a trusting friendship with a playmate and that playmate’s family has created a welcoming safe home. Throughout childhood this home is where the disappearing child heads right after school after checking in with Mom, Dad, or an older sibling. Here is where the disappearing child ‘hangs out’, where snack foods, and meals, TV, easy banter, and acceptance are always available in endless supply. The disadvantage, or possible advantage, of this escape is the loss of closeness with others in the nuclear family. The advantage, besides avoiding dysfunction, may be life-long friendships formed and maintained with these really special neighbors, unless of course the process is interrupted by a family crisis or constant moves by the nuclear family. This phenomenon of constantly relocating is called the “the geographical cure.” 

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Is there a connection between the eating habits and stress? The answer is “Yes”. There is a direct connection between these two. When a person gets tensed, he/ she tend to munch more. Unnatural and abnormal eating habits are categorized under eating disorders. These include eating less, over-eating, as well as bingeing and purging etc. these disorders have highest mortality rate, in comparison with other habits. These can lead to various other illnesses related to malnutrition due to less eating and high pressure or cardiac diseases related to obesity due to overeating. Most of the patients do not acknowledge their disorder and they continue with it for long time until it is discovered by others or until it creates problem for them. Once this problem is detected, a hunt for eating disorder rehab gets started.

There are various types of rehabs, which follow different types of approach. Some of the rehabs may emphasis more on reforming the mind set to overcome the problem completely along with the medical treatment. Some rehabs follow Christian believes and enhance spiritual up-liftment of the soul by preaching the teachings from Holy Bible. Whereas some follow a holistic approach which aims at overall development and cure of their client! There are private rehabs which are vowed to keep their clients’ history and identity a secret. But one thing is common amongst all these rehabs is, types of treatments they offer.

There are two types of recovery treatment offered, out of which one is the out- patient and the other one is residential. Out- patient treatment involves visits to counselors, medical experts and other therapists. Particular time is allocated to each patient and then the patient can resume to his duties. The other type has a higher rate of success than the earlier one. They are the eating disorder treatment centers. This treatment requires the patient to remain in the rehab for a stipulated period of time to undergo medical, psychological, spiritual or physical strengthening treatment. One of the most advantageous elements about this treatment is that it actually alienates the patient from the surroundings which might be one of the influential factors leading to disorder. In a new environment the client embraces life in new surroundings with revived capabilities. While the patient is getting treatment, their families also get educated about new approach towards their sober loved ones and ones these sobers are out of the rehab, they are welcomed in a new environment conducive for continued sobriety.

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 I started using meth when I was 16 years old. I was just a weekend user, I moved to Sacramento, CA when I was 21. Let me tell you, finding it here in Sacramento is as easy as finding shells at the beach. It was cheap, clean, and powerful. Sometimes I would stay up for 8 or more days in a row, then I would eat and sleep for 2 days and do it all over again.

After about 20 years of abusing my life and family with methamphetamines, Child Protective Services and the court system stepped in and kicked me in the head. After being clean for exactly one year, I suffered a heart-attack and had surgery. Having heart problems at the young age of 37 is enough to scare anyone straight! I am happy to say that I have been clean now since Feb 2006.

Five Lies About Men

Lie #1: Having Feelings is wrong and bad

            Men are confused. We are taught early in the game a basic lie. We are taught as little boys that FEELINGS (yes, I'm goanna talk about the "F" word here guys) are bad and WRONG. We therefore confuse emotions with faults or short-comings if you are a 12-stepper, sins if you are many Christians.

As a man in al-Anon, a 12-step program for people who are being adversely effected by somebody else's drinking, I have listened to men speak during meetings about how hard they are working to overcome such feelings as fear, guilt, and (heaven forbid) ANGER! ‘Ya think that they will ever really eliminate those feelings? Is that going to happen? Is that even desirable? Here are some questions to ponder; if feelings are sins, why did God make them a part of us? If we had no feelings, what kind of beings would we be? If anger is a short-coming, then how could the only perfect man who walked the earth, Jesus, show it so obviously and so often?

So here is a way to live with this conundrum. Suppose feelings and emotions are perfectly normal acceptable experiences for men. Suppose feeling them, expressing them, and accepting them for what they are is all OK. Suppose these feelings only cause moral problems when we make the wrong decisions about how to express them or how we allow them to dictate our behavior choices!

Life might be a lot easier for us (as well as for those who have to live with us) if we just gave ourselves permission to be healthy emotional men who acknowledge to ourselves and to others that we have feelings. Heck, we might  even get so "out there" that we are able to admit them out loud to another trusted person (even another man), and then let them go until another one happens along. If I feel honest anger toward another person and I have the nerve to tell him or her so, and if I am ready to deal with whatever reaction that person has to my honest anger we might even engage in some conflict. Wow. Wait a minute...is that a sin too?

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